Character, Honesty, Integrity

May 6th, 2009

I took this photo in July 1980. I remember it well because I was taught a huge lesson by my Dad and he never said a word to me about it. Most of the things I learned from my Dad involved few words. We talked freely but children watch what you do more than listen to what you say.

I grew up in eastern Ky and am proud of my roots. My father is not a highly educated man but is the smartest person I know. My parents never owned a credit card until recent years. They never made car payments but owned several. They never made a mortgage payment but have a nice modern home.

The day this photo was taken we were hauling logs to a sawmill. That is a big industry in the Appalachian foothills. Obviously we had a little tire trouble. I was following in a pickup truck and we were on the shoulder of a busy interstate highway. We could not move until we replaced two tires.

We took the pickup and drove back to a local town. We didn’t know anyone in this small town but soon found a tire dealer that had the correct tires, the 50 ton jack we needed to jack up the trailer and the air hose to inflate the tires from the truck air brake system after getting the old tires off and the new tires on the steel wheels.

There was only one problem. We were an hour from home, Dad had no credit card, only a few dollars in his wallet and not even a blank check. At that time we called them blank checks because no one had pre printed checks with account numbers. You simply signed a “blank” check and the bank knew you by your signature. Every business in a town had “blank” checks for the local bank.

Obviously the options were limited for getting any help. Then my dad told the owner to call any business in our home town and ask if he could be trusted.

The owner called 2-3 businesses in our hometown and every one said the same thing. “Give that man anything he needs. His character, honesty and integrity are beyond question.”

We walked out with two very expensive tires, the hydraulic jack (the owner made sure we got the good one), 50 feet of air hose and were asked if there was anything else we needed. A handshake and a promise to mail a check as soon as we got home sealed the transaction.

We replaced the tires and I returned the jack and air hose in the pickup while my Dad continued on to the sawmill. It was really no big deal. When working with heavy equipment and trucks there is always something like that happening.

But I never forgot that day. I learned a life long lesson without my Dad saying a single word about it. That happened more than once in my childhood.

Job Interview Ponderings

April 28th, 2009

As my friends and family know, I am still unemployed, but doing fine. I won’t mention the company yet, but I had an interview today. And I was surprised.

You need to be prepared for an interview. Research the company, look on LinkedIn for the people who will be doing the interviewing, research salary ranges for the position, decide what an unacceptable low salary is for you and as bad as we hate it, go through the list of classic interview questions and make sure you have a clear answer. We all have answers to the questions but it often takes some thinking about your past career to match your experience to the questions. Sitting at home in your robe and fuzzy slippers is the time to be doing that pondering, not while staring at the interviewer. Another thing that helped me was looking back over my career and picking 10-15 situations where I had a great success or had to deal with a difficult technical issue or even a people issue. Make notes on what the challenge was, what actions you took to resolve the problem or produce what was expected of you and then what the final result was. You were successful, you resolved the issue, you saved the company money, etc.

I spent three days getting ready for this interview.

Now for the surprise. I expected to get grilled during the interview. I expected to get hammered with a bunch of classic interview questions. I expected that if I did not give a perfect, concise classic answer to each interview question I was toast. But the first person spent twenty of the allotted thirty minutes of the interview talking about the company in a very casual way. He put me at ease immediately. And the other manager, two developers, a VP and the HR rep all did the same thing. So it must be a company culture thing.

I am not the kind of person who is going to be able to give you a five minute response to a question with good grammar, perfectly spoken words, an intro, three main points and a conclusion sentence. Ain’t going to happen. These people created an environment where I could be my bumbling, fumbling self. They saw the real me, not someone trying to give a perfect scripted answer to a question. Regardless of whether I get a job offer, I feel good. I think I will be among the top candidates. The interviews were actually enjoyable, it seems like a great company and they saw the real me.

Maybe that was their plan.

So my pondering is……if the job interview is a grilling session and the expectation is that you have to give the perfect scripted classic answer to the standard interview questions and that is not you, maybe that company is not a good fit for you. You have to be prepared but maybe just being yourself is a good strategy also.

I Am a Google Number One Search Result

April 8th, 2009

I know it does not matter in the grand scheme of things but this morning I was looking at some Google Analytics data and realized I had a number one Google search result. Pretty neat!

I Really Like My Burgie

April 7th, 2009

Last summer during a vacation in the Smoky Mountains I saw a scooter that really got my interest. When I returned I did a little research and found that my 1993 Honda 750 Nighthawk still had a pretty good trade in value so I traded it for a Suzuki Burgman 650 Exec “Super Scoot.” I love the thing. It has a 650 twin engine and can easily do 100mph. But it has the low center like a scooter, an automatic transmission and everything is wrapped in plastic so I can’t burn my legs when riding in short pants. The exec model has a power wind shield and ABS brakes.

It takes a change of mind set to have no foot controls. It is a little like the mini bike I had as a kid. Just get on and twist the throttle. The brake controls are on the handle bars. When I want to play I can switch the transmission into a 6 speed which is controlled with buttons on the left handlebar. I can then shift gears with buttons instead of a clutch. I get lots of strange looks as the Burgman has only been out a few years and you don’t see many on the road.

I added extra storage on the rear and it is amazing what I can carry in the thing. I can fit 4 full face helmets under the seat and in the extra storage or about $100 of groceries. I took some photos recently of a typical grocery run. Look closely at the photos. That is two gallons of milk, a gallon of OJ, bread, 5 lbs of fries, etc. And I had some room left. My boys and I really like our “Burgie.” And it gets close to 50 MPG.


Burgman Website




What Would You Do if You Knew You Could Not Fail

February 27th, 2009

During my current period of unemployment I keep thinking about something I was asked a few years ago.

“What would you do if you knew you could not fail?”

Some of the first thoughts that come to mind are: running for president, climbing Mt Everest, hang gliding in the Grand Canyon, writing a book or playing the lottery.

But applying this to your career, what would you do? Start a business? What would it be?

Give me your thoughts.

Laid Off Financial Plan

February 21st, 2009

Finances will probably cause more stress for you during a lay off than any other challenge you face. I had been expecting a lay off for years so my finances are in decent shape. But on Jan 14 when I heard the Nortel CEO say that all severance payments would end immediately I was a little panicked. No. Very panicked. Sick at my stomach panicked.

But over the next couple of days I got very motivated about finances. I worked out a plan and soon realized how far a dollar can be stretched. I can survive for a while before having to dip into any serious savings. Here are some of the things I did:

  1. Sign up for state unemployment benefits. Determine what your weekly benefit will be. Remember that you have to pay federal and state taxes on the benefit.
  2. If you have children, get them on free or reduced lunches. You’ve paid taxes for years. If you have no income you are entitled to this benefit. Just do it.
  3. You are not driving your vehicle to work every day. Call your insurance company. Your insurance cost will be reduced. I already had the deductibles as high as allowed on autos and home.
  4. I have a couple of loans through my credit union and I have been making extra payments on them. I called the credit union and explained my situation. They immediately lowered my monthly payments by $500 for 3 months and will evaluate again at that time.
  5. Before your medical benefits expire, get fixed. Get a dental checkup. When was your last physical? How are your eyes? Can you get new glasses?
  6. You have to have a realistic budget. But don’t make it complicated. List the fixed cost you have every month such as mortgage, loans, insurance, electric, water, phone, cable, internet. Look hard at those to determine if any can be reduced or eliminated. Do you really need a land line phone and a cell phone? How about cable TV? Can you get loan payments reduced?
  7. After the fixed costs I only have three other categories of expense. Food, fuel and misc. Determine a realistic value for these and add to the fixed costs. This is what you need each month to survive. Now subtract from this your monthly unemployment benefit. This is your monthly cash burn. I was surprised at this number. It was much lower than I thought. This is the point where that panicked feeling went away. I now had a realistic plan and knew I would be ok for several months.
  8. You have to track expenses to determine if your budget is valid. Don’t spend based on how much money is in the bank. Ignore the fixed costs but track every other expense. I carry a small bag everyplace I go with my resume, business cards, small netbook PC and a small notebook to track every penny I spend. Everything falls under food, fuel or misc. Keep a running total or do like I do and update a spread sheet on your computer every few days. This helps motivate you to not spend money. Also I just hit 30 days on my survival budget and I nailed it to within less than $10. A budget is worthless if you don’t track expenses to determine if you can live on the budget.
  9. Get temporary health insurance. Not a normal plan, you can’t afford that. Just something to cover you in case of serious illness. I found a plan to cover myself and my two sons for $181/month. It has a $2500 deductible but then covers everything at %100. It does not cover preventive medicine, but that is not what I need for now. My family is healthy. I can handle an office visit for something fairly routine. And I can always come up with $2500. But a serious illness without health insurance would put me and probably you into bankruptcy. If you have children you can probably get an accident policy through the school. I got the boys covered for a one time $80 payment/each until the start of the next school year. That will cover things like sprains and broken bones without having to pay out the $2500 deductible on the temporary health insurance policy.

This is my plan. I hope something here helped you. Can you add anything?

The Ugly Horse

February 15th, 2009

A cousin contacted me yesterday regarding our great great great grandfather William Ellington Bond. I had put together a Genealogy book for my family in 2005 and decided to look through it for information regarding our grandfather. I had forgotten about the following story I had included in the book.

The Ugly Horse

On 16 Oct 2005, my brother Greg and I were returning to NC from visiting the folks in KY. I wanted to look for the grave of Jeremiah and Mary Yates and we swung through Haysi, VA looking for the Andrew Jackson Edwards Cemetery. We found one good looking prospect on a beautiful ridge but our ancestors were not there. We tried a couple of other small roads but with no luck.

We were inching up a narrow one lane mountain road when we came upon a lady walking her dog. We asked her for directions and she told us to check with her brother who was cutting firewood on up the road. So we continued.

Rounding a sharp curve, Greg calmly remarked “Now there’s something you don’t see every day.” It was a Llama, resting upright, with its legs folded underneath it, chewing aggressively on its cud. As we drove slowly by keeping our eyes on it, it swiveled its head to watch us and never stopping chewing the cud.

About 100 yards later we came upon three men beside the road. This was Oct so they were wearing flannel shirts with matching baseballs hats and I’m pretty sure all three were chewing tobacco. They were cutting firewood just like the lady said. They were on Greg’s side of the truck and I rolled down his window and shut off the truck so we could talk. We were driving my Dodge 2500 long bed Cummins Diesel pickup. That thing was so loud I always had to shut it down in drive throughs.

The look on their faces told me they were thinking “Them boys ain’t from around here.”
One of them leaned back on his boot heels with his hands in his pockets and loudly asked “WHAT DO YOU KNOW BOYS?” Greg without missing a beat said “Right back there is the ugliest horse I’ve every seen in my life.”

One of them immediately said “Yeah, and he’s HELL TO RIDE TOO!” Needless to say, that broke the ice and they proceeded to tell us of several places that might be our
cemetery but none of them proved to be the one we were looking for. It turned out we were reading the directions backward and we soon found the cemetery. But I still chuckle every time I think about the “ugly horse.”

Here are the photos I took that day of the graves of my great great great grandparents.

Here is the grave of William Ellington Bond my cousin was looking for:

Laid Off Strategies

February 14th, 2009

There are many resources on the internet for surviving a lay off. You should use them. Not every piece of advice will apply to your situation but you will find information that can help. Here is my strategy.

Expect an emotional roller coaster and lots of stress, especially if the lay off was unexpected. This will be completely normal. You’ve had these feelings before in your life and everyone handles them in their own way. Be diligent with your coping methods. Get plenty of sleep, eat right, stay physically active, stay on a schedule and do something fun just for you every day. Now is the time to lean a little on family and friends. Let everyone know your situation. They will understand why you can’t go out to eat at a restaurant, or go shopping, or go golfing or whatever it is you do with friends and family that involves money. This will reduce some of the stress in your life. Also they may know someone who knows someone who knows something about a job.

If out placement services are part of your severance package, take advantage of every service and class they offer. There is an amazing amount of emotional support to be had in a room full of people who share your situation. Also there is often someone in the room who knows someone who knows something about a job.

Get some business cards. I used VistaPrint. In the out placement classes, give one to every person you talk to. They will often have one for you. If you are not on LinkedIn you need to do so immediately.

Stay positive and let go of how your previous employer may have treated you. Just get over it. Times are tough. No one really wants to hear you complain. But people naturally want to talk to a person that has a positive outlook, a great smile and a plan. And often that person who is impressed with your attitude will know someone who knows someone……… I honestly believe when I am through this phase of my life that I will look back and say it was one of the best things to ever happen to me.

The biggest concern during a lay off is finances. I will talk about my plan in the next post. But I have one last piece of advice. I like little ceremonies to mark events in my life. Just before my lay off I found a wine I really enjoyed. The price is a little outside my normal range. When I get that first job offer, whether I accept or not, I am going to pop the cork on a bottle. And when I get that first paycheck, I already know which restaurant I am going to and who is going to celebrate with me.

My detailed financial plan will be the next post.

Sometimes You Have to Laugh to Keep From Crying

February 7th, 2009

My Dad’s grandmother often gave her grandchildren advice about life that could be summed up in one sentence. My Dad passed those on to his children. One that I never truly appreciated until I was an adult and a father was “Sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying.”

I like analogies and one that describes my life recently is a wooden sailing ship tossed about a gray wind whipped sea in a howling wind. Everything is lashed tight and the ship is doing ok. Then a strong wave hits broadside, rolling the ship over almost horizontal. Water on the decks start to clear and the ship slowly rights itself, then another wave comes along.

Used with permission. Atlantic-Cable.com website

The Nortel bankruptcy was certainly a broadside that tossed many of us pretty hard. I have greatly reduced my budget, cut cash burn to the absolute minimum, purchased temporary health insurance, got my resume polished, attended out placement classes and started networking. I have some reserves and can comfortably look several months for a job; if I have no major financial hits. The ship is slowly righting.

A couple of weeks ago I looked up from my desk and and noticed the house was filled with smoke at the exact same time the smoke alarms when off. I am a chronic list maker and I kid you not, my very first thought was “I can check off testing the smoke alarms” followed by some words that I can not print here.

The smoke had that unique electrical fire smell. I ran through the house looking for a point of origin and then I took 30 seconds to let my diagnostic skills kick in (that will be another post) and quickly noticed that the whole house was filled with smoke so the HVAC system was a prime suspect. That and the fact that the system is 14 years old and I’ve been told about 10 years is the max for a heat pump system. More unprintable words. I’ve just been hit by another broadside wave. The ship is going over.

I rush to the window and the outside unit is still running but there is now no air coming out of the vents. I shut the system down and go into the crawl space for a better look. I am a firm believer that everyone should have some general knowledge about how systems work. To stop this story here, the air handler motor had seized and the 60 amp 220v circuit breaker was fried. About $120 later I was back in business clearing the smoke out of the house. If I had called a repairman I am sure the cost would have been hundreds more and they would have pushed a complete system replacement.

The deck is clearing. The ship is slowly rolling back upright.

My benefits ended last Friday. Prior to Friday I went to my dentist to get a filling replaced. The dentist said I had another filling that was borderline so we should do that one also. It was a slow day at the dental office. The teeth were on opposite sides of my mouth so I got two shots and my whole face was numb. He finished one filling and was working on the other with the drill that vibrates your whole head when…. wait for it…….  The power goes off.

Here comes another wave.

One of the hygienists found a flashlight in her purse. The hated drill is powered with compressed air so it still worked but there was no suction so I had to just spit or swallow. The dentist finished up with the hygienist leaning over me with a double AA Mag-Lite stuck in my mouth.

I was almost hysterical with laughter as I left. I told the dentist what I have just told you. I also reminded myself  “Sometimes you have to laugh to keep from crying”.

My luck is definitely going to get better from here.

Another Attempt At a Blog

February 3rd, 2009

Over a year ago I thought about starting a blog but never really did so. I am going to try again.

Recently my life took a new direction and I think I will blog about my transition. Maybe something I say will help someone and maybe someone will have some good advice for me.

After 27.5 years with Nortel Networks I was laid off in early December 2008. Nortel has been laying off people since the dot com bust and I had been expecting to be impacted for years. I was not angry or bitter. I understood the reasons. The severance package was very good. I had salary and benefits until Sep 2009. They even contracted with a firm to help me polish my skills and resume to find another job. I relaxed during the holidays and planned to crank up the job search in January.

Then on Jan 14, 2009 Nortel declared bankruptcy. No more severance checks immediately and no more medical benefits after Feb 6. As you can imagine those of us who are ex-Nortel people on severance were pretty shocked. We were counting on the severance pay to help us through the recession. I expected a Nortel bankruptcy in late 2009 but not now.

I could say it is not fair but that does not change the reality.  Since I had been expecting this for a while, I had made some preparations. I will share more later.



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